Rules of Thank You Notes
- A thank you note must never be pre-printed or typed. A personalized handwritten note is expected. The envelope should also be hand written.
- If you are writing a thank you note for a gift, you should note the specific gift and discuss each one. You want the giver to know that the gift is appreciated, and that you are looking forward to using it.
- If you are thanking someone for a monetary gift, never mention the amount or the words “money”, “cash”, or “check”. Instead, thank them for their generous gift, and let them know if there is a specific purpose that their gift will be used for. It is a gracious way to acknowledge the gift.
- Make sure that the individuals you are thanking know that your thanks are for your friendship, not just the gift.
- Be punctual about your thank you notes. Send a thank you immediately if possible, but remember that there is no statute of limitations. A late thank you is better than none at all.
- Thank you notes should be addressed to the individual who signed your gift card.
Always send thank you notes in the following situations:
- Wedding gifts
- Sympathy letters, flowers, or cards
- To the hostess of a party thrown in your honor
- For bridal or baby shower gifts
- For gifts received by mail
- After being entertained by your boss
- For gifts received during a hospital stay
- After being hosted as a house guest
- For notes or gifts of congratulations
Thank you notes are not required in the following situations, but they are always appreciated:
- After being a guest at a dinner party
- After a job interview
- For birthday gifts that were received and opened in person (even if you already thanked the person verbally)
- When a friend has performed a special favor such as babysitting, or running errands